Ok, here's where I'm at in case anybody has any comebacks, otherwise this is just to organize my thoughts:
In the compact travel zoom class I'm considering:
Casion EX-FH100 - but it says not good for novice photographers whgo don't want a lot of options (that's me

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Nikon Coolpix S8000 - real tempting but it doesn't offer a lot of manual control, I don't understand if that means no iso, aperture or shutter speed control
Panasonic Lumizx DMC-ZS5 - uncoated screen tough to see in the sun and I'm not sure what adjustments it has either
Samsung HZ35W - seems more expensive, for the GPS feature that I don't care about?
Moving on up to the compact super zoom, seems like it may come with more adjustments/features but I'm not sure I'd use them and if the increased size is worth it, but
Canon SX20is or the Pansonic FZ-35.
The dpreview website also led me to some larger sensor size (but more expensive) compacts:
Panasonic DMC-LX3 and the Canon S90
Not sure if there are others in this class I should consider
I checked out the Olympus PEN E-P1 at Costco that Rob found, but I think that may be a bit more camera then I can handle.
I'm gonna try to get my hands on some of these. Any suggestions where to look locally? Only places that come to mind are Best Buy and Kits (now Ritz?).
Thanks again for all the advice, I don't think I mentioned this but our departure date is July 27th so I appreciate all the help I can get. I had asked the wife if she wanted a new camera for the trip some time ago and she said no, then just a couple days ago she mentioned she might want a new camera for her birthday (july 23rd).